I–WE–US Pronoun Progression

Here is some fatherly advice for all those who are getting married, have gotten married, and/or are having children or planning to have children. Listen carefully, this is very important to the success of the family you create. We all started life as an “I.” Almost everything in your environment is focused on your wants, needs, and desires. Your parents and family turned all their attention to the child. You soon learned “the world revolves around you” and the world is here to satisfy “my” needs. You developed an attachment to the unwholly trilogy of me, myself, and I. You go through your childhood focused on your “I.”

“A real man loves his wife, and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and content in life than simply being a good husband and father.” – Frank Abagnale

Then, at some point you realize you need to include others to your life, friends and siblings. You need to create relationships. But you also come to realize your wants, needs, and desires clash with those of others. However, to create successful and meaningful relationships, we need to learn how to put aside some of our own wants, needs, and desires to include another’s wants, needs, and desires. This is especially true if the relationship is a spouse (or significant other) – you now become a WE. You are no longer the center of attention. You adapt to successfully include others in your life. You need to figure out how to balance your wants, needs, and desires with the wants, needs, and desires of your spouse and others. You need to put aside your Primitive Soul motivations and start exercising your Angelic Soul motivations of Peace and Love, as described in Only Human: Guide to our internal Human Operating System (iHOS) and Achieving a Better Life.

Then you take the next step in growing your family, let us add a child to the mix – now you become an US. No longer are you (or your spouse) the center of attention, there is the big shift to the new child in your life. All adult attention now focuses on the new child and you become just your daughter’s or son’s parent. The pronoun progression (I-WE-US) has now come full circle. But most importantly, as a successful spouse, parent, friend, you have learned how to include and balance the wants, needs, and desires of each relationship into your life through the Angelic Soul motivation of Peace and Love.